Radical Approach to Forgiveness
- Do we ever feel like something is blocking our ability to live a fulfilled, joyful, successful life?
- How are we responsible for the creation of conflict, resistance, tension and fear in our life?
Maybe what arises as an adversary in our life comes from within us. It is important to see the relationship between thoughts of fear and the inability to let go of the past and how they manifest themselves as experiences, appearing as if someone or something is against us. Maybe it is time for us to take 100% responsibility for our fear-based actions and the hurt they may have caused. True, the hurt that fills our heart is real. Our heart aches, how can we let go of that experience? Perhaps there is something under the surface that is creating this difficulty to transform our 'life' and make our personal goals a reality. An underlying condition that is preventing us from rejuvenating our life and letting go of the heavy chains that are keeping us anchored to painful parts of our life story.
Refusing to forgive carries with it a heavy emotional cost and we do want to manifest a life worth living. However, if our mind keeps wandering - even subtly - into shame, or blame of others, "life," or even ourselves, then manifesting our personal goals becomes next to impossible. From this state, taking action is not enough to get us to become the architect of our personal transformational change and UNLOCK our full potential for a life of fulfillment, joy and success. Instead, we are called to a deeper healing before we can rewrite that new and more inspiring story for our brand-new life. Only then we can construct unshakable footing that supports us to create an extraordinary life and achieve extraordinary results in a meaningful and lasting way.
Lack of forgiveness will hold us back and cause us to become spiritually stagnant. We will find ourselves in a place where we are not living a life in the full, passionate expression of our heart’s desire. Forgiveness is about liberating our energy reserves and freeing ourselves from emotional pain to reduce the ego’s control over us. I would love to say that forgiveness is simple and easy to do. It may be simple, but it is not easy. Especially when we have not reduced the ego’s control over us. The ego is a master of the 'shoulds' and a trickster that wants to bring up unforgiving memories and negative emotions such as anger, rage, resentment, or jealousy. The good news, forgiveness is one of the qualities of the self-possessed and it eliminates the energy patterns that keep guilt, shame and fear from remaining the dominating force in our entire being. I am also aware that forgiveness cannot happen unless we are willing to commit ourselves to make it happen. Forgiveness is a process that requires a radical approach to let go and a conscious effort to free our mind.
This is the tender realm of a "Radical Approach to Forgiveness’. It is a process that begins by realizing that we are only humans. Forgiving others by realizing that they are only humans. Our efforts to let go and free ourselves from emotional pain reduces the ego’s control over us. Refusing to let go (forgiveness) is resistance to what we don’t want and attracting more of whatever we are resisting. A call for us to come alive by letting go of the past. Why? Because letting go frees the mind from constantly re-experiencing the emotional pain from the past.
I believe that the most radical approach to achieving ‘Self-Empowerment’ in our human journey is for us to be free from the traps of the ego, cut our ties to the emotional pain from the past through the raw power of emotional intelligence. No act of forgiveness is too small if it radically liberates us from our cocoon; the price is eternal vigilance. A call for a radical approach to forgiveness…
Written By: Windsor Lindor © 2018