®Radical Forgiveness
What is the key to radically remove conflicts that prevent you from letting go of the pain that thorns your heart and achieving fulfillment and self-empowerment?
What will you suggest is the most radical approach to your human journey?
The most radical approach to our human journey is living our authentic ‘Self’, and that authenticity cannot be bought, it cannot be sold to us, and it does not come prepackaged from a set of limited beliefs. There must also be a conscious effort to free our mind, eliminate the dysfunctional thought patterns and free our ‘Self’ from constantly re-experiencing the emotional pain and discomfort from the past. This is where, we will be called to find the key to radically remove conflicts that prevent us from letting go of the pain that thorns our heart and achieving fulfillment and self-empowerment.
I believe, emotional intelligence is the missing key. However, accessing this key requires us to take bold actions. Actions that will propel us down the path to discovering a radical approach to forgiveness that will lead us toward emotional intelligence, maintaining the newness of life and letting go of the past. It is true, letting go of the past does involve a radical approach to make a conscious effort to free our mind from the interpersonal difficulties, emotional pain, resistance, tension, and fear.
Through my work with emotional intelligence and the features of fulfilling relationships, I have realized that there is a real relationship between thoughts of fear, and the inability to let go of the past. They also manifest themselves as experiences, appearing as if someone or something is against us, and they arise as an adversary in our lives. This adversary comes from within us, and the creation of our interpersonal difficulties in our lives is our making. As a result, we are not able to ignite passion in our relationships, creative expression, joy, fulfillment, and harmony.
These interpersonal difficulties are dynamic energies within where we can move authentically and radically, so long as we act from the awareness that we are 100% the source of our reality, and our explanations, assumptions and judgments mediate how we relate to any given situation. Thus, these forces are not against us and perhaps, this is our opportunity to examine how we choose to interpret our life’s experiences when we find ourselves in conflict, with interpersonal difficulties, resistance, tension, and fear.
Then, the question is, when will you choose to live a life free from interpersonal difficulties, uncertainty, resistance, tension, and fear, the life you desire? Well, if you have been thinking this is your time to live the life you desire, I invite you to consider being radically truthful with yourself and uncover what is the cause of these difficulties. That is, the underlying emotional condition that is preventing you from letting go of the heavy chains that are keeping you anchored to unforgiving memories of your life story.
You will find, this condition is causing you to refuse to bring healing to the wounded parts of your being, and the essence of this refusal is resistance to what you do not want and attracting more of whatever you are resisting. Yes, this will continue to cost you a great deal and manifesting the life you desire becomes next to impossible. True, the pain is tangible and your heart aches. However, I am certain without letting go of the past and bringing healing to the wounded parts of you through a radical approach to forgiveness, you will not be able to live your authentic life in the full, passionate expression of your heart’s desire.
Well, before approaching radical forgiveness, you must have a renewed attitude that calls for you to:
Accept your humanness and realize others are only humans.
Let courage and perseverance cheer your course and bring them into your experience proportionally to their occupancy of your thoughts.
Commit to the process of letting go of the past and eliminating the energy patterns of interpersonal difficulties from remaining the dominating forces in your entire being.
Then, I ask:
When will you choose to take 100% responsibility for your fear-based actions and the hurt they may have caused?
Why will you want to make a conscious effort to free yourself from constantly re-experiencing the emotional pain from the past?
What will it take for you to find out what is creating the underlying condition that is preventing you from letting go of the pain?
The best approach to these questions involves your ability to enhance your capacity to radically forgive. A forgiveness that calls for you to be aware that by forgiving, you are not releasing the other person from their transgression as much as you are freeing yourself from their transgression. You do not have to condone their behavior, trust them, or even maintain a relationship with them. However, you do have to radically free yourself from the interpersonal difficulties, the pain and the resentment once and for all.
This approach to forgiveness involves seeking a new course where commitment and purposeful action can help you to:
Acknowledge your anger, your pain, and your fear. But also own up to any part you have played in allowing it to happen or continue.
Make sure to express whatever it was that you wanted from that person, and then see the whole event from the other person's point of view.
Make a place for greater love and allow an expansion outward from the repetitive emotional spin of fear.
Cut your ties to the emotional pain from the past, take control of your life, and experience reliable happiness.
I would love to be able to say that radical forgiveness is easy to do. While it is simple, it definitely is not easy. Especially when you are resisting to transformational change and not willing to reduce the ego’s control over your life. True, radical forgiveness requires a lot of courage, and it involves seizing the moment to move into the present and quench your thirst for the life you desire.
Thus, I invite you to consider being bold and receptive to the power of radical forgiveness. That is, would you consider seeking a radical approach to your human journey, and removing conflicts that prevent you from letting go of the pain that thorns your heart and achieving fulfillment and self-empowerment?
If yes, you will want to have the tools you need to manage your setbacks with greater ease and take a radical approach to forgiveness.
Written By: Windsor Lindor, ELC
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