The Path to Healing Relationships
Where did your concept of relationships begin?
No matter what you produced for an answer, I invite you to take a look within yourself and into your source-figures’ faces, where you were psychologically born. Your original oneness with yourself was either spiritually mirrored and validated or rejected and invalidated through those source-figures. That is, if your source relationships were spiritual, your relationship with yourself became spiritual. If your primary caretakers were wounded adult children acting out of their trance-like mystification, your relationship with yourself became mystified.
With this in mind, what would it take for you to discover the steps necessary to have a greater understanding of your relationship and explore the path to healing it? Before answering this question, let us take a look at how we live our lives. That is, we live our lives in constant motion. It is easy to forget that we have choices in what we do. The results of making powerful life choices and selecting the experiences we want in our relationships most are actions that are alive, effective, and empowered.
Relationships can be a struggle. As human beings, we each have a strong inner urge toward conscious loving: toward love relationships that are free from mistrust, disharmony, and unspoken words. We want our relationships to be springboards to higher consciousness and enhanced creative expression. Yet within us also lives an urge toward unconscious loving: we are encumbered by the burdens of our past programming.
It is true, many realities exist when it comes to the path to healing relationships and cultivating infinite love in order to overcome the roadblocks that have detoured us from experiencing what we value in our relationships. I have learned relationship is like a dance and we are born with a capacity to dance together but not with the necessary training. We must learn the dance steps and practice until we move with ease and grace. The joy in it requires work. Some of us have been damaged physically or in our self-confidence, and we will have to practice dancing more than others.
It is the same in relationships. Our early experience forms or deforms our adult relationships. It may take us years of work and practice before we can be at ease to relate with and to others in healthy ways. This means relating mindfully, without either blind possessiveness or a crippling fear of closeness. Yet no one relates with perfect ease without learning the skills, just as no one dances with perfect ease without instructions.
As a dancer you can refuse to improve your skills with little consequence to anyone else, but if you do the same thing in a relationship that has conflicts that calls for an intimate involvement, the relationship will suffer. These conflicts are created because you have been "entranced" by dramatic experiences of a counterfeit version of love, and they limit your ability to be true to what you value in a relationship, and you become more permeable to assumptions, worries, anger, mistrust, and more emotional poisons.
These conflicts do not support the cultivation of infinite love in a healthy relationship. The love that will empower you to reach within the minefields of the soul, extract your treasure, and strengthen the thread in a healthy relationship. This is also the love that will inspire you to co-create the path to conscious loving. Thus, you can get to the point where you let nothing darken the way and soar bravely toward your heart desires for your relationship by getting the tools you need to:
Slip free of the shackles of the emotional pain from the past into a fresh space of creative freedom where you can foster co-commitment, infinite love, intimacy, and trust.
Overcome the conflicts that have detoured you from deeper relationships to become receptive to the qualities of a healthy relationship.
Only then can your relationship journey progress to a point where you can unlock your full potential for experiencing harmony and healing the wounded parts that often sabotage your relationships. The question remains, what would it take for you to discover the steps necessary to have a greater understanding of your relationship and explore the path to healing it? No matter what your answer is, if you are ready to gain vital insights into the steps to fostering closeness, infinite love, intimacy, and trust in your relationship, you will want to find the trust to do the work.
This work will help you make the crucial choices at points in the evolution of your relationship that will enhance the opportunities to bring understanding and healing to the wounded parts of you that often sabotage your relationships.
Ready for a journey to infinite love, intimacy, and trust?
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